Matchmaking is kinda creepy...

Before I realized how obsessed the world was with sex, still believing it to be operating on the lines of my own asexual libidoist nature, the idea of matchmaking was really cute. It was some time after I realized that, for a great many people, sex is the primary aspect of a relationship, that I was hit my some unflattering fridge logic.

Matchmaking is all about choosing two people and trying to get them to have sex.

Based on random internet research, it seems that most people begin having sex within a few weeks of their first date. Very commonly, it seems that people have sex long before they say, "I love you," to the other person. So it's certainly not some distant eventuality.

The only "date" I've ever been on was a semi-blind date set up by a friend of mine at the request of her other friend. (I eventually accepted, only to be polite, though told her in no uncertain terms that her friend shouldn't expect anything but the friend zone.)

My friend, clearly oblivious to me being an aro-ace (not that I'm exactly open about it off the internet), offered to help clean my apartment "in case things get steamy". (Little did she know this was about as needed as bringing shot glasses to a mosque.) I'd hardly have thought that a 30 year old woman would be thinking about my sexual relations (or lack thereof).

So yeah matchmaking is kinda creepy.

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