Ask an Ace of Spades

Imagine , if you will, that in your city, town, whatever, there is a Fancy Restaurant. People talk about it, people think about it, people hardly seem to get it out of their thoughts. It's in all the movies. This Fancy Restaurant is always being advertised, and sometimes other companies even allude to it in their own ads, just implying that the people in their ad are going there. In a word, everyone is obsessed with this Fancy Restaurant. It seems like the life goal of everyone is to eat at the Fancy Restaurant as much as possible. But there's a catch: you need a reservation. And the reservations are expensive and take a lot of effort to get. Many people get jobs, or try to get better jobs, just so that they can get past the bouncer, and then it takes careful negotiating with the staff to actually secure a reservation. "But why," you ask, "do I need to eat at the Fancy Restaurant? I can cook. It's far easier, cheaper, and less of a bother to just w...

I found out about a year or two ago that I was an asexual. Aromantic asexual, specifically. Though on the whole it's been a relief to understand everything better, it has lead to a lot of soul-searching. I figured I'd make this blog for three reasons: (1) The blogs of others I found were very helpful for my own exploration, and so if there's anything I can do to help others who may be questioning, I wanted to do so. (2) With the state of awareness and understanding of asexuality and aromanticism in the place that it is, perhaps I can help people outside the community understand us better, or give resources to aros/aces who wish to explain it to those without. (3) It's a good place to post my own random essays and musings as well. So, whether you're asexual*, aromantic*, questioning, or just curious, please feel free to ask questions! (*And I mean spectrum, here. Please don't think I'm leaving all you demis, greys, and other spectrum folks out!)